What Are You Fighting For?

What Are You Fighting For?

Let me be clear, this is not a call to action. This is a call for assessment.

Urkjorman, my minotaur in the Family of Thunder series has this problem sometimes. Fighting because there is a fight instead of learning if he should be fighting.

Unsurprisingly I have this problem as well. I don’t get into a bunch of fist fights with zombies like Urk does (supposedly) but I am quite argumentative.

The problem with being argumentative, and aggressive in general, is you look for reasons to express your aggression. It’s not being angry, I want to make that clear, it’s not anger. Often times it’s a lot of fun, it’s exciting.

And because it’s exciting it’s seductive. But that’s what I get out of it, you. You’re probably not having fun.

It’s not constructive to be in battle simply for the sake of being in battle. And worse it can be quite destructive. Trust me you don’t want the reputation for arguing simply to argue. Then no one will take your points seriously. Especially if they’re real good ones.

So: “What are you fighting for?”

Are you fighting for fun? Are you fighting for liberty? Are you fighting for those who can’t? Does this fight, serve your purposes? How? Will winning it improve things or just make you feel better for a little while longer?

I have to tell myself sometimes; “winning this fight won’t help you. Why engage?” And I take a breath, and I think, really think about the benefits before I continue or start.

I need to do that more, a good fight feels righteous. Like I said it’s seductive.

Because it’s so seductive I must be very, very careful. And so I ask that you learn from my mistakes and be very, very careful as well. Don’t just pick your battles, pick your victories. Understand what you’re fighting for and the cost of victory.

Thank you my friends, I hope this helps you as much to read as it helped me to write.

Take care and God bless;

~S. Wallace