At Your Worst When All Is Best

At Your Worst When All Is Best

Well it’s that time of year again. If you’re in the northern hemisphere(of Earth) the days are getting longer, the temperature is going lower and people find more excuses to stay inside with something warm. In the southern hemisphere (of Earth) Spring is about to come to an end and Summer is around the corner,

In either case their are a plethora of holidays and celebrations, some religious, some culture to mark this grand change. It is a time of year that is supposed to be full of happiness and cheer.

And if you’ve read this blog long you know what I’m going to say next.

For some people it is not a time of happiness and cheer. It is a time of stress, loss or mourning. It is a time where dark nights or bright days fill one with reflection and too often we find that reflection lacking.

Nothing sounds so cruel as laughter on the day your mother died.

The fact that people are “supposed” to be happy this time of year makes those of us unhappy feel worse. As though their is something wrong with us for not feeling elated. Worse we do not want to bring down the happiness for others so we suffer in silence, never reaching out to those who would comfort us for fear of being a bad person.

Suicide rises substantially at this time of year.

I bring this up chiefly to let you know that if you are feeling terrible you are not alone. Not alone in your pain, and not alone in love. Their are those who will gladly accept the pain you feel to lighten your burden. Any true friend would rather spend Christmas Eve cheering up a friend than remembering their loss.

If, however, you are on the other side of things. If life is doing well for you and fills you with cheer. Great. Share that love and happiness with those around you. Give the over worked retailer a bit more patience and check in on your friends who may seem more reclusive than usual. Sometimes just someone checking in to say “hi” and remind us they are is all it takes to lift us out of a slump.

I hope the coming weeks fill your life with wonder and joy, and if you have it I hope you can spare a little of that joy for others who may need it.

Thank you and God bless;

~S. Wallace